It’s All About .METhe Life and Times of Carrie Hill

The girls my daughter’s age in our neighborhood are all snotty little bitches.  They treat each other like crap and my tender-hearted daughter gets caught in the “I just want to have friends so I’ll be nice to everyone” trap at least once a week.  The thing that drives me crazy about these girls is the fact that they will be absolutely ughly to each other one day – and nice as pie the next.  3 girls in particular (the “axis of evil” as it were) are the worst culprits.  They show up to play when the’re bored, or when some other girl in the neighborhood is paying attention to Maddie – only to “steal” the friend away or treat Maddie horribly.

Yesterday my daugther walked into the house sobbing.  this doesnt happen VERY often -as Maddie’s first inclination is to punch someone who is mean to her…but apparently she went to the neighbor girl’s  house (one of the axis of evil members) and another snotty little girl was there.  Maddie knocked on the door and the girl’s mom answered and told Maddie she wasnt welcome in the house anymore because these two girls had told the mom Maddie called her a “fat cow.”  I can pretty much guarantee that didnt happen – because I’M a fat cow – and Maddie understands how sensitive adults can be about weight issues.

This mom took her spoiled rotten little brat’s word over Maddie’s of course – and my daughter stumbles home in tears.  I was so torn – do I storm down the street and demand an apology?  Would it do any good or just make it worse?  My best advice to my child was to work on being the best person she knows how to be – and to have friends – because they were great – but not to let them manipuate and control her life.

My mom’s favorite saying is “Dont let them live rent free in your mind.”  I use that often with Maddie and her quest for popularity.  She’s wicked smart (invited to take the ACTs at 11 years old) and has a TON of common sense (well – a ton for an 11yo.)  So here’s my question – who out there will build me an intuitive search engine that will deliver step by step instructions for mom to handle situations like that just by typing in “bitchy little girls?”

I told her to walk her own path – and let the little bitches try to follow.  They’re too dumb to keep up.